Their anger is not about me

I carried a story for so many years

"If someone gets angry, I’ll drown in my fears."

I stopped and I asked it, "Is that even true?"

My life shows the answer is clearly a solid no through and through

But still I get shaky when tempers arise

My breathing gets tight as I glance at their eyes

A part of me rushes to make it all right

Trying to calm someone else so I feel less fright

But hey, their anger is not about me

It comes from a story only they see

Another might meet me with kindness instead

So it’s not my burden to sort out their head

And I am protected, I’m safe in God’s care

So I can stand open and love I can share

(go on and share that love)

I ask how I’d feel if I trusted instead

"That anger is born from the thoughts in their head."

I’d feel more at ease and I’d feel more aligned

More steady, more centered, more gentle, more kind

So God, help me loosen the fear in my chest

Help me release the blame I possessed

Help me stay grounded when old stories rise

And breathe in the grace that brings calm to my life

’Cause hey, their anger is not about me

It comes from a story that only they see

Another might meet me with kindness instead

So it’s not my burden to sort out their head

And I am protected, I’m safe in God’s care

So I can meet life with a heart that is fair